The book Fire and Fury that POTUS Donald Trump Did Not Approve Of is Making Headlines and Has Many Questioning His Mental Health

After reading Drew Magary's account of author Michael Wolff's revelations of Inside the White House  as an act of journalistic bravery, I shared a few comments about along with others in a FB post about why other people who work with or know Donald Trump were mute about his mental competency to be President of the United States.

Drew Magary included information about how much Donald Trump repeats himself in meetings as President and likely in personal interactions.

There are small windows of legislation that might allow for a mandated evaluation, but those are not used even in light of Trump tweeting about nuclear strikes without any vetting by the White House.

I heard a talk on NPR the other day 'by chance' since I'm seldom in a car or listening to the radio about how usually a President would have everything he says to the press screened thoroughly by others whose job was to keep an eye out for security and having a kind of 'currency of leadership and trust representative of the office and our country' rather than the individual. This collegiate leader likely would do well to give Donald Trump a summary of the points he made...yet DT likely would not be open to hearing any such talk or banter..

So here are my thoughts about Why Others were not stepping up to do what Michael Wolff braved, albeit possibly not with clear and transparent consent of the people he entertained 'unaware' of the power of their words. I realize I have been blogging away in a bif of a fog as well with 'what's allowed, legal and so forth', not having oodles of training but trying to keep it in the public-friendly acceptable realm and giving credit for resources and ideas best as I can.

I wanted to mention that as I was writing the post, a small bird flew in from the cold through a window I had cracked open about 3 inches. That seemed to me after I got over the concern it could be a bat (it wasn't) that the little bird approved of my message. That was a playful theme someone shared they had in a dream about my late teen son sharing ideas and a tag line following that he approved of the message.

Let's be aware if we are dreaming, tweeting, blogging or talking off the record and have a team to check in with best as we can. On that note and on this day which would have been our son Kaelan's 25th birthday, Jan. 6th, 2018, I will bid you adieu. There is a bit of a back story on Remembering Kaelan Alexander Palmer Paton. 

 A mother had a dream once that echoed a time she really saw  a hawk swoop down to get birds out of a nest right outside of her country home.  All she could do is throw a stone at the hawk, but it was too little too late. In a dream about custody court there was a sense of a judge in his black robe taking her kids like a flying monkey. There was nothing  that could be said or done that would registered even though much was shared for months and years.

In the end, the hawk and judge (representing many misguided professionals and even scared or silent friends caught in the mix) had their way keeping the children from the mother..and sadly that continued for a few more years. In at least one case even though tragedy befell one of the children through an untimely passing, the others eventually regained a sense of connection with the mother..and even a reasonable tie with their father though more as formality as adults rather than an honest therapeutic healing if that is really even possible. Many fathers are basically 'out of the picture' at a fairly early stage in many children's lives and some for good reason. Others for more of their own choosing.

Having a second family can be a strain financially or even a confusing juggling act, but perhaps with more societal supports and coaching early on in life to be aware of emotions and social options to interact more reasonably on a 'level playing field' more people would find ways to transition to amicable or at least safe, respectful zones and lifestyles if circumstances change for one or both parties.

Alan Seid offers ideas on cascadiaworkshops.com about the use of NVC, Non-Violent Communication, as does Thom Bond online and in his new book. In the US the 50 different states and their many jurisdictions have an array of policies and people who each have their own agendas and impact on any woman and child and occasionally on a man.

The circus in the White House has our attention. Hopefully we can all realize we may live in a microcosm of

that in our own part of the country and in our own small social circles.

Wishing us all luck and ways to find better solutions locally and globally.

Adam Brock shares some new ideas from social permaculture in Change Here Now. That's on my list to read...and maybe we can get our local libraries and Donald Trump a copy too.

Maybe someone can leak him or us the info.

Here's the FB post from a community forum but the copy did not carry over well. I will work on that..

The precedent of evaluating the President is being discussed..

and opening the can of worms that many leaders of states, towns, churches,

universities, high schools, grade schools and even work place folks could Also be evaluated..

That is likely why everyone is unwilling to point a finger or raise the question.

The reasons also ricochet throughout the society in terms of 'consequences for reporting'

whether there are protections for whistle blowers or not. The dynamics of an abuse victim trying to alert 'advocates'

to her plight are often similarly met with confusion and blaming the victim.

That happens even when the laws and practices are spelled out clearly

(think about sexual assault victims trying to get justice, even in the military or on college campuses.)

The BMCC, Battered Mothers Custody Conference has been held for over a decade

annually drawing many 'whistle blowers' in the field of domestic abuse (not necessarily the agencies

in every state but grass root activists who insist those groups often do too little too late for

mothers apt to lost custody of their children to abusive fathers. 

That is against national policies and recommendations but the wrong doing

and corruption is like a cancer in the courts..and Not Covered in the Media or by mainstream society.

For decades, 60K Protective Mothers lose custody of their children if not access to seeing them or even talking with them.

There are some new documentaries out about some of this with one 

called No Way Out But One (which recounts the Holly Collins story from a few decades ago..

and she recently has been allowed back into the country after having fled with her kids to the Netherlands.

Another one is  What Doesn't Kill Me (about Protective Moms who lose custody

in dire situations when the abuse is against the children. 

CT did not rate well on a report given out a few years ago. Even foster care and adoption agencies likely need more oversight so the public can comprehend the policies and where they fall short.

The NY Post has had lengthy coverage about the many shortcomings in the systems.

Also once children are 'adopted out' there is little oversight if any, and they can too often end up being mistreated if not moved to other dire realms someone who'd studied the problem more told me.

It's hard to imagine so much rampant ignorance or wrong doing in agencies that are designed to address such matters.

Not every case is like that, but often there is a 'look the other way' or clear set of limitations put on people to maintain their jobs and the status quo.

The dynamics can be confusing for any person raised to trust the system..and not have a clear way to know Who Can and Should be helping them Effectively. There are people in our communities and in every state who 'lose access to their children' one minute to the next. Sometimes for allegations, and some for other reasons no one sees coming..that's part of the strategy..sneak attack (shock and awe..)Even After someone is in a difficult situation whether as a victim or not anticipated (think divorce, custody battles, relationship stress between one or more people or any given episode that may create conflict or involve police etc...) the parties often don't have the vocabulary to comprehend What They Experienced. When the situations are episodic, lasting only a few minutes or even due to glances and veiled threats, a victim (or often victims) don't know what to make of it.

One can feel they are in a house of mirrors. Some assaults (in NY State for instance) may only be addressed or prosecuted if they happen in front of children. If a mother is willing to leave with her own children (if the couple was not married or the person had not adopted the children) there may not be clear way to guarantee her safety to get her belongings or have a clear way to address monetary matters.

Wherever one is in a relationship or housing situation one needs to know the laws and agreements one has made explicitly or tacitly. Reviewing those terms annually if not more often would be prudent. If there is a restraining order people would have to be lined up to help her get her things when the perpetrator is not home, even it is his home.

The kind of 'social work'- police support that is needed is not clearly in place in every district and a victim can feel 'its hopeless to keep trying.' Some things need to be done in a short time frame of days or weeks. If that period passes it may require going back to court.

Trying to be clear about a person's civil rights versus what their work agreements is another area that merits widespread discussion. A military pilot for instance has a 24 hour (bottle to throttle) window..meaning they can use alcohol but not the day before they fly. When I heard of that I was glad not be flying much.

Of course planes supposedly can almost fly themselves and should be flown in decent weather (as a television program Why Planes Crash reviewed.) More people are realizing motor vehicle collisions are primarily due to human negligence (drugs, alcohol, and texting or talking on the phone with or without a handheld device...it's about focus and multi-tasking, speeding or other poor judgment moves.)