To a Wonderful Person Facing A Big Health Challenge and Her Caring Husband and Courageous Kids...

With the theory of  Quantum Entanglement, the idea that 'what affects one person impacts others in some way' is being experienced by just about everyone regarding the COVID-19 scenario playing out for some who have faced the challenge of having the virus and sadly succombing to it as well as 'everyone else' whose become aware of the possibility of getting sick (even if not morbidly so, possibly facing some breathing challenges and infecting others even before showing symptoms who in turn may have a serious or fatal outcome even if that is a small minority.) 

I will reflect on that more in another post but wanted to share of a situation a family is facing (not with their names and such but trusting more people can learn from such challenges to grow in care and courage whatever the challenge.) I have donated to a few gofundme.com sites for local people who have had sudden challenges with health or other pressing matters, and know that even my small contributions are appreciated.

Comments of encouragement can go a long way as well. In our area, many people have friends if not relatives in common, so those ties are appreciated. With generations of family keeping in touch, it's not uncommon to hear of someone having cancer or another serious illness at this point in 2020. Still some cases are 'benign' and manageable while others are more serious and often the beginning of a set of medical concerns and major adjustments even if mainly among adults.

When there is one or more child or another person needing ongoing care, the ability to focus and follow through with 'daily living, school and faith routines, sports and other events' all can be more of a challenge.

Defining a new sense of normal is what each family or household, perhaps a single person with fewer connections, has to face. The area others can join in are in helping the patient or person in need not feel or be alone in making decisions or setting up routines, even in 'asking for help.'

I know a few people who are housebound whether elderly or ill with a chronic condition. We likely would benefit from having more localized outreach and awareness teams to help families and individuals have validation of their needs and ongoing support and visits.

When a person lives in a community geared toward helping others, whether through personal connections based on family, friends and work or local connections or more formal agencies (who sometimes bridge gaps to local services or provide funding and guidance to obtain help at least initially and through transitions if not over the longer haul) people can contribute in meaningful ways.

With the COVID-19 pandemic concerns, everyone is more open to considering ways to prevent illness or contagion, particularly by voluntarily becoming isolated or limiting interactions among large groups. This kind of effort is impacting communities and states particularly with school cancellations for days, weeks or months and moving to doing work from home, online and in other 'defensive ways'.

The cancellation of plays and concerts in some areas if not states can largely be due to preventing lawsuits as much as preventing exposure. Knowing the risk for serious harm or death is relatively low if people are healthy is a big help, but then again we all know 'there are no guarantees.' 

Consider then those facing a serious cancer diagnosis (such as Stage 4 which is one that means the cancer is spreading and not expected to be reversed even if it can go into remission so allow the person more time. whether months or years.) Add to that if the person is in the prime of their life, has a devoted partner or spouse, one or more children to care for and stay connected to. The level of fear of loss and change can become another factor that impacts the person and situation.

The growing information about how 'thoughts can influence reality and even one's chemistry' can seem a bit illusive and distracting even in the midst of such serious concerns, whether cancer of COVID. But then again the peace that many people find in facing an array of adversity or challenges including crisin, loss or serious change in a relationship, living situation or other life plan is something we need to invest in discussing and exploring. What is the 'power of prayer' whether intentions, requests, feeling in terms of envisioning the healing of heart, mind and soul and embracing the things 'not seen but hoped for'.

Trusting that inner peace and healing in terms of continued faith and hope  in a loving presence in one's life, some feeling the teachings and gift of Jesus as a divine messenger and conveyor of the Holy Spirit holding the key to values and grace of accepting more than one may be able to comprehend or feel one should or could 'accept' is central to walking a path of sanity and inner peace and even protection 'come what may.' Some say we may be 'making it all up but it can all really play out accordingly' so either way, being watchful and mindful of what is in one's heart and mind is key to the journey unfolding as it does. 

With Quantum Entanglement, trusting that the universe, which some may feel more comfortable calling Love or God, whether a particular faith or a kind of 'all in all' which we are connected to individually as well as collectively is a huge 'invisible force at work all the time'. Part and parcel of being alive, we are all potentially or actually connected (whether more through our life force or our intentions and feelings.) That' the kind of huge mathematical and scientific equation we may try to ponder... as we are perhaps looking up at the stars or appreciating the energy of the sun 93 million miles away warming our earth. That's just scratching the surface. 

The context of feeling 'all alone' when the reality is likely that we are 'all one' can be a central part of embracing our human race experience. We want to 'stay in our bubble to stay out of trouble' in many situations and to avoid contagion, but likely there are bigger multi-dimensional bubbles that connect us more intrinsically so basically there is 'no getting out of the matrix of energy and even of meaning and connection we call Life.' I like to remember that the inner part of that word is "IF". Much of how we view life depends on If we see things or consider certain options of defining reality. 

If we get convinced that we are only alive when we have a physical body, and there is no spiritual life (particularly after the mortal body dies) then we can't keep the discussion going about What IF there is a spirit that exists beyond this life? What do our family and friend connections mean beyond this mortal realm? It seems people clearly do honor the memory and lessons learned (even if negative or hurtful in too many cases) so the living people do carry the legacy of those who have crossed over in their daily lives in various ways.

Whether formal or more 'incidental' (a song reminding someone of a loved one, a favorite food or even glassware, activities and other family and friends one had in common sharing a memory or again just continuing life along the lines that reflect the sense of that person still having a place in their circle) can all be stepping stones to consider the meaning and many would say the ongoing sense of connection (from the spiritual world even if the mortals are feeling they alone are coming up with that sense of remembrance and ties or more formal ways of paying tribute to their loved ones and others in spirit.)

The following is what I shared with a family I learned is facing a more sudden and serious health challenge of a family member, a parent in the family. I will keep it mainly anonymous as it's not someone in my local area or immediate social circles.

If they want me to share more, I can of course. But I'd ask that people envision a sense of peace and overall inner healing and wellness for each member of the family, particularly the one with the challenge. Envisioning what may not be the case is not denying reality but rather 'ushering in another level of reality'. The health may not be the final outcome or even the longterm delay but energetically seeking peace and inner healing may allow for that more readily than despair and pleading which may have a different frequency to that.

The idea of acceptance of God's will is one the family shares. Yet they face each day with that greater faith and trust that life is a gift and healing can take many forms in terms of easing one's heart, mind and yes, promoting health as well.

It seems to me that much of what we are considering regarding the current virus risk and concerns is along these lines, of trusting that we can keep our dignity and humanity while facing a new challenge that may play out on many levels, socially, emotionally, physically, economically and practically (with various housing, rides and caregiving needs if not health support teams being needed.)

Thanks to everyone doing their part to live in accordance with a sense of care and support and following laws and precautions as one feels is reasonable and not endangering oneself or others.

The guidelines are becoming more strict and better defined particularly in terms of 'a person does not necessarily show symptoms but may infect others inadvertently through coughing or sneezing' even if not having the virus at that time. See the latest recommendations on the Center of Disease Control (cdc.gov) for your state and perhaps take added precautions as one feels led. That said there is a need to stay in touch with people whether on the phone or on the internet (and facetime or zoom.com)  which may be helpful.

Knowing that people train in the military to 'follow orders' and take precautions in serious sudden situations (such as storms where the National Guard may be called on to clear roads and give supplies), we can all draw on more common sense to stockpile supplies and find ways to create social safety networks, perhaps with each school and class (among parents and students if schools cannot create such programs) to stay in touch daily, weekly and monthly with a few contact people (4-6 parents, a few moms and a few dads and other supportive adults for instance) to monitor how people are doing, getting information and finding ways to track progress whether with studies, skills, plans for ongoing safety and support or other concerns for ways to help a family if a parent or child becomes ill or in need of extra help for instance.

Everyone can think of ways to improve situations and draw upon other experiences and groups (such as faith or civic groups that have ways to check on one another, promote advocacy and stay informed and prepared with a travel bag for each family member should someone need to go  into another setting for a few days or more.)

Becoming accustomed to transitions, travelling, checking in and staying informed with a core team can provide a safety net that can be helpful to many and contribute to the overall well being and success of moving through challenges much like riding out a storm. Thanks to all who are thinking as 'team players.' There are many other posts from over the years to consider ongoing connected efforts to build community awareness and support in many practical ways with an eye toward safety and sharing in the good life has to offer.

 Dear Devoted Family who has a parent with a serious health challenge,

It is amazing to see your strength and faith in facing the many serious changes and concerns that have become part of your life story and is now moving many hearts and skilled people in response.

Thank you for sharing your journey and know that love is coming from all directions. May help emerge to keep up with the many important medical needs as well as the support for each family member.

Feel free to be in touch as that may be helpful. Having seen the Sound of Music recently performed by high school students, I hope we can all encourage one another to focus on positive healing aspects of facing whatever challenge emerges. Peace, love and light with prayers for inner peace, healing on all levels and faith in the love 'that surpasses all understanding.'

We are all on a shared journey with guidance and love from above we can lean on as we find our way back Home when the time comes, however and whenever... Hopefully we can all be aware of the internal and eternal 'GPS' of caring and sharing with a sense of gratitude and blessings from God as the road and way to bide our time and be open to the gifts of life, day by day. With warmth and prayers, Catherine (who heard of this challenge through mutual friends)