To another Mom whose son passed in 2009...as well as many others I haven't met (yet) but trust we connect at the heart level

I shared this with a friend who I've known since I was a kid...whose teen son passed in a difficult way unexpectedly about a month before our teen son passed. Since then I've met many mothers who lose custody or access to their children. They refer to 'losing their kids' which is thankfully not about having them die. I think some clarification would be helpful but the pain is real, as though their children were taken 'for good'. Groups called Mothers of Lost Children and the CA Protective Parents Alliance have worked to promote Resolution 72.

 

That would help protective parents, generally mothers, maintain custody if violence is alleged during custody disputes. Too often women and children are not believed. This next part refers to my friend but can be extended to include any who are missing their children for any reason, or others they care about and want to be in touch with or spend time with. Taking one day at a time, acknowledging the 'spotlight' that a holiday like Mother's Day can bring for missing a child (and her son died on a day that sometimes is a Mother's Day...and is also close to what is my birthday which also sometimes is that holiday.) Each day holds many meanings, times for prayers and times for celebration...much like life.

 

A friend visiting today was sharing that she was a vegetarian since 1968 and she's over 60 now. Mainly she started with health concerns but overall it's been working out well for her. Just a side note to lighten up the conversation and feel that our late son Kaelan is reminding me of the idea...which he followed since he was 14. He also wanted a dog, and one named Buddha showed up on an outing I was on the other day at a hotel This woman is a dog walker and encouraging us to think about connecting more with a pet. More hints! I also saw a couple of therapy dogs from ECAD in Winsted CT so maybe I am on track to do more dog care and connecting. One of my oldest friends has a dogwalking business so I felt that's part of my story too. Golden people and pets as in Best Buddies!

 

Thanks to all being compassionate to others (including the group Compassionate Friends which is a world wide outreach for parents who have children who died--that 'unnatural timing' for the most part. Considering each person is an informed spirit can help downplay our human understanding of someone as 'only an infant or child.' The theory can take the edge off the 'downward spiral and difficulty' of feeling the person passing is not going to get to live a full life.

 

That may be so in our view, yet we may allow other theories to help us consider that every life is rich on profound levels to teaching many in their circles and beyond about 'the human and spiritual condition.' Not to sound callous at all but to ask those bigger questions such as Deepak Chopra and others explore about the meaning of our life, the nature of our existence, the benefit of kind intention and willingness to work for the common good so all are feeling cared for (whcih is a theme of many spiritual practices as well as political goals.) Okay, so here's my FB post to my friend..and hopefully the sentiment can bring more people into that delicate circle of wondering or having to ever face the What Ifs...